Saturday, April 11, 2009

Grief (when you are feeling all alone)


Take time to grieve unfulfilled dreams.  It seems as if grief is always equated with loosing someone, which of course is true, but loosing some "thing" can also cause sorrow and grief.  I am not sure about loosing an inanimate object, whether one grieves that or not. I guess some do, and should not be judged.  But the loss of a dream, a goal, a future, all can be very grievous.  These losses can cause anguish, pain and distress.  You can suffer and be in despair. We just don't take the time to grief those types of things like we need to.  It almost seems wrong, compared to loosing a loved one.  It doesn't quite seem right, and you feel guilty like your priorities are off.  People don't come beside you.  It's a quiet, lonely type of grief that you have to deal with by yourself.  You may be very brokenhearted over your loss, and see no hope or way out.  But the thing about it is, whatever the loss, you do have to go through the grieving process, and give yourself permission to do so.  I don't know how to do it, or what is appropriate, but I do know it is vital. It should not be covered up, glossed over, or pushed aside.  Grieving is real and dealing with it on what ever level is a necessity for moving on and being healthy and whole.